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The Power of Saying NO in Your Life: Learn to Spell It and Say It

No, no, and no! the repeated mantra of “No” that comes out as a big whooping “yes”. Ever feel like you have been in this situation before? That is because you have.

It’s not something that comes and goes. Most of the time we are stuck saying yes to everyone around us. It doesn’t matter whether we actually lose something by saying “no”. Because you are going to keep on saying yes.

Humans are social animals. So, the more we meet others, the more we want to interact with them. If we give them respect, we want respect. If we are going out of our way to help them, we want the same. But that doesn’t mean that it is going to be reciprocated. We keep on giving. But in the end, we do not get all that we deserve. And it feels like we got the short end of the stick. But that’s okay! Right?

No, it is not right. Yes, will not always suffice.

Doling out a yes, every time, might feel great the first few times. But after a while, it starts to become an exertion. And we are prone to overexert, overthink ourselves.

Up till a certain moment in my life I used to say yes. I was a pleaser. Every time someone asked me to do something. I would utter a yes. Even if I didn’t feel like doing it. Or I knew it would be difficult for me in the future.

But that all stopped when I realized, I could not keep everyone happy. If I waited for others’ approval. I would not have been able to go anywhere.

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When I first started working. I used to do everything they asked of me. No matter how small or big the matter. You’d find me in that particular corner. I didn’t apply anywhere for two whole years.  Because I didn’t want to disappoint the people that I had worked with. So, I stayed.

But just one moment, I realized that I was worth so much more. And then I simply didn’t care about anything. Realizing your self-worth is a big step into the unknown. Because saying yes and being run over feels familiar to us.

“Live your life for you, not for anyone else. Don’t let the fear of being judged, rejected or disliked stop you from being yourself”


If we live our lives, pending approvals of others. We will never be our own person. We would be giving the key to our happiness to others’ hands. And that is simply not it.

We have to give ourselves the confidence to step forward. To yank the chain of the train in our direction. And to learn to let go of others’ opinions.

  • Make yourself a priority

Just having a positive attitude towards life is not enough. You need to learn to let go of opinions and attitudes. And adopt feeling free and happy.

Make yourself a priority. Because know that you are worth it.

Instead of letting others tell you what to do and how to live your life. Take charge. Make your decisions. Stick to them. Learn from them. Enjoy the rush of power that every decision gives you. feel the aftertaste of positivity. 

Now hold that power of self-worth very closely. Use it, don’t abuse it.

Your opinion of yourself is the one that should matter the most to you. Trust others but beyond that trust yourself; in making the right decisions, yourself in living your life, your way. And trust yourself in making the rules.

Don’t depend on others’ opinions about you, when you can depend on yourself.

You are valuable and as important as anyone else. Raise your voice not to outraise others. But to let others know that you own a voice. And you know how and when to use it.

  • Worth of saying ‘No!’

Believe in yourself. The world is your oyster. If you don’t feel like bowing down to others’ opinions, don’t. You don’t have to lower yourself to accommodate others. Your values, truths, and beliefs are what matter the most.

So, commit yourself to say no. You’ll have to remember to stick by your decision as well. Don’t let the doubt creep into your thoughts.

Remember the feeling of saying yes, even when you didn’t want to. Would later on giving excuses to get out of a commitment, you didn’t even want to be better than saying an outright no?

I’ve made commitments before as well. So many that I have lost count. But afterward getting out of them was a right pain in the ass for me. Making up excuses and more often than not lies to get out of the said situation. It actually made me feel bad.

Tips on Saying No:

  • A direct no would work wonders
  • Don’t say, ‘I’ll think about it”, just say ‘I don’t want to’
  • Remember the feeling of saying yes, every time
  • Recall all the lies you had to say before to get out of a commitment
  • Remember to be truthful to yourself
  • Instead of making excuses for your behavior, stand by them
  • Don’t let people talk you down
  • You are the owner of your life and decisions
  • Always be polite while saying no. such as saying, ‘Thank you for asking.’
  • For the first few times, practice saying no to yourself in front of a mirror
  • Don’t apologize and give reasons for saying no
  • Own your No. Stand by it
  • Don’t feel guilty. You declined for a reason
  • Remember saying no doesn’t make you a bad person
  • Know your self-worth

It will challenge you and make your decisions firmer and stronger. You will feel more empowered and freed.

If you want to be the owner of your life. Take charge and control your decisions and take up the challenge of saying NO!

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